The comforts of certainty are perhaps humanities greatest weakness.We have survived and thrived through our ability to make lasting and impactful changes in our life. Every time we learn something new, every time we embark on a new experience, every time we allow ourselves to do something different, we are embracing change.
Changing who you are and what you do can be one of the most difficult things in life. Humans easily get caught up in a sense of comfort and security, and when this happens we have little desire to push boundaries and stimulate growth in our own lives. However this should not be so. We all are where we are at today because of the choices that we have made and the changes that have occurred in our lives. Whether it was you deciding to move to a new city, you deciding to change your career or you deciding to end a relationship, you are in the drivers seat of your life. Only you are the person who could have made those changes.
To really grow as a person it takes a lot of introspection. One must be able to look deep within themselves to identify what it is that you really want in life, and what it is that you need to include, exclude, or change as a result of your desires. This is what personal development is; your ability to create new paradigms for yourself and to grow into the person you want to be. To truly embrace who you going to become, all you have to do is change. It is that simple. You make new habits, eliminate bad habits, and allow change to be the seed that turns into a flowering plant of personal growth.
How to Change
To really change you must be able to do two things. The first is to be able to identify your habits. This will allow you to see what is that you are doing and come to terms with what you do on a day to day basis. You then can remove any bad habits and replace them with good ones. The second thing you must do is to take action. Without action there is inaction, and with inaction you are not going to be making any positive changes in your life.
Identify Your Habits
The first step in understanding how to make an impactful change in your life is to identify your current habits. Discover what it is that you do on a day by day basis and look at both of the positives and the negatives. Anything that is routine and anything that you do an a frequent basis is a habit of yours. For example, when you brush your teeth every morning that is a good habit. If you smoke a pack of cigarettes every day, then that is obviously a bad habit.
Look at everything you do with an objective perspective, and observe the actions that you frequently take. As you begin to identify these habits, you will be able to decide which habits are holding you back from where you want to be in life. Does your frequent partying ruin your next day and take away from valuable time to work? Does your lack of focus take away from your drive and limit your productivity each day?
Begin to write your habits down and organize them between good, productive habits and bad, destructive habits. Having this list will be the foundation of the changes you are about to make in your life. After you have finished this list, write down a list of ten habits you think all leaders should have. Or, make a list of ten traits or habits that people you look up to have. How many of these habits are on your list?
The next step is to actually take action on your path of personal development. With a list of your good and bad habits, you can now compare those to the ones of people you look up to or admire. To really make changes, do not try to fix everything all at once. You will likely be overwhelmed unable to make any lasting impact. Instead, pick one bad habit, and one habit that you wish to replace that bad habit with. Now step by step, day by day, phase out that bad habit and begin to take action on implementing a new, production habit. For example, instead of watching tv for 30 minutes every night, go and read a book or write down your thoughts in a journal.
By taking action you are completing the second step necessary to change who you are and what you do. These kinds of changes in life, the habitual and ingrained actions that you take ever day, are the hardest to take. However, the rewards will pay dividends for the rest of your life.
Repeat the Process
After you have successfully changed an old habit by replacing it with a new, productive one, you are taking monumental steps towards your individual growth. Every time you succeed in this, discover the next habit that you wish to remove or add, and make that process your life. Every time you make a positive change, you are taking the ultimate path of success that you can take . You are changing who you are at your core to truly embrace the necessary steps to personal development. This is what change is at its basic level. You are evolving as a person to become who you want to be and live the life that you wish to live.